Sun July 5

 Lonnie said he was feeling 90% better🤗

Got Maddie’s dress finished and Jaira’s cut out and zigzagged

Sat. July 4

 Lonnie had come home last night with a headache also, but by the morning he was feeling Really terrible with the chills, headache, etc. topping it off with a rib out of place. He spent the entire day in bed😳 certainly a very rare occasion

The rest of us went about our day

Laundry, bread to bake, and I decided if the girls were gonna have something nice to wear to the upcoming wedding of our maid’s son, i’d have to get busy sewing! Their dresses we’d finally been able to drop off at the tailor to be sewn wouldn’t be ready till next Sat. And I’d left their newest dresses with the tailor for measurements! I don’t mind them having a dress or two sewn by their momma anyway😉

I’d brought a tenderloin for steak from Dhaka to grill up for Maddie’s birthday, then after our change of plans figured we’d have her birthday meal the next day, but with Lonnie under the weather we weren’t going to be grilling steak. I ended up slicing some of it really thin and pan frying it. Putting it in a quesadilla with sautéed onions, bell peppers, and a little hot pepper.. yum 😋 

I kept that machine humming after everybody was in bed

Fri July 3 Our Maddie Jane turns 12 and a native funeral

 We left at 7:00. eating sausage patties and banana muffins on the road, picking Kobid up at Zero Point. 

It is certainly Monsoon Season which makes visiting natives a real event. especially with small children and all the mud everywhere. I always wonder if everybody will be able to stay upright this time. 

Beauty’s mother’s name is Miriam and she lives with Beauty’s brother and his wife and 8 yr old dau. Genia. Their house is at the back corner of a 200 yr old cemetery. So actually a very nice location considering they have a huge concrete walled in “front yard” with all their neighbors being 6 ft under, giving it a peaceful, quieter atmosphere than most of Bangladesh city living. The story was told today of how years ago the family rented this house as it was low rent. Thru the years, the rent got less! And now they do not even have to pay rent anymore! Not a very common trend🤔

 I had a surprise, I had not realized that Khokon and Beauty had a son! But he(Opu?) and their dau. Orpita met us out by the highway when we arrived. And showed us to the house. We stepped thru the doorway into the 1st small room, where Miriam’s body was lying on the bed. Her sister, which is our Sister Elizabeth from Kaligonj met us there where she took up residence on the bed next to Miriam. In the next  room, Beauty and her children hung out with other visitors coming and going. And serving dim, ruti, and dhal for breakfast.

 Beauty has been staying there with her mom and brother for this last month. Her and Elizabeth both seemed especially sad all day.. we were escorted thru another small room in the front of the house across from Miriam’s room where a laundry line was strung and floor beds were rolled up for the day. Into another bedroom with a bed, loveseat, and bathroom adjoining. Kokhon was hanging out in that room… I stayed there for a bit but soon found my way back over to where Beauty was, to sit with her and visit some and then spent some time in the front room with Elizabeth and Beauty’s brother and wife. At one point I stepped up to Elizabeth stepping on the burlap rug at the end of the bed. Squish. It was very soggy🤔 remember..everybody is bare foot, leaving their shoes outside the door…it was raining just outside the open doorway but only later did it fully dawn on me what I’d probably stepped in😳… I have not been acquainted with dead bodies that have not been embombed😝 but to these folks, it’s a natural part of life and death.. Later, I observed a couple women ringing the rug and rags out into buckets, no gloves, no ado….

Somehow None of Gentry’s pacifiers came along with us! So that presented it’s own challenge for the day😫

After awhile, Brian’s, Miss Aleigha, with Elizabeth’s husband, Boli and son arrived. 

I walked out in the cemetery with Gentry to where the grave was still being dug. The cemetery was quite overgrown so couldn’t walk around too much beyond the path from the front gate to the house…we were warned of snakes..

Walked back to the house about the time they were bringing Miriam’s body out in the bed sheets to a covered area where they proceeded to wash and dress her. The daughter in law set to wailing… this lady died of cancer and was only a very small skeleton by this time. The casket⚰️ actually shaped just like this emoji! Was covered in black fabric, a couple narrow satin ribbons like green and white maybe 💭 all the way around with a few coordinating satin flowers here and there.

Sometime in here, Kaylee and I decided to go buy some flower bouquets. I’d taken note of the florist shops not far away, on the way in. Brian helped us hire one of the rickshaws waiting in line on the street side of the cemetery. We took Bennett and Annslie with us. The flower dokans were farther away than I had remembered, but not too bad. It didn’t take long to buy 2(one for Beauty and one for Elizabeth) already prepared, nice sized bouquets, for a total of 900 Taka(about 9 USD)

Back at the house, Miriam was already arranged in the casket there in the front yard. The flower bouquets were put in the casket with her for picture time. Perfume and scented powder was sprayed all around and over her…a prayer..and then the casket was carried to the cemetery.

On the way, the lid that was just loosely resting on top, was accidentally knocked askew🫣

The husband, that had been buried 14 years ago, was unearthed. A sheet covered his casket that was not holding together too good any more.😳

So the smallish crowd gathered around led by a robed priest? Supposedly not Catholic, but Church of Bangladesh, although the performances felt very Catholic🧐 1 or 2 Bangali songs were sung. A couple different times the crowd was lead in crossing themselves. The priest read from his book. Elizabeth and 2 other ladies were called on to speak… could hardly hear them… were they sharing memories?? The lid was moved aside, holy water was sprinkled, the bouquets were removed to be placed on the grave later. The lid was nailed down. And she was lowered by ropes and the husband next. We were given chunks of dirt and marigold petals throw over them.

As we had agreed to stay for lunch, we were escorted back to the house, back to the room with the loveseat, bed, and adjoining wash room. Instructed to rest 🤔 After awhile individual boxes of kichuri(rice and lentil mix) with a boiled egg were brought in with apologies for the wait time. It felt so backward… the family serving us. China plates and glasses again.. after lunch we invited the family in with us. Brian’s had brought a few Bangali hymnals. So we stood with the family and sang 5 or so songs. Boli and Elizabeth’s married son, I believe, took Gentry during this time and kept him happy till we were ready to leave. What a Godsend, as Tylenol was not kicking my headache and there was a tired Annslie around also.

Lonnie shared a scripture and some words then Brian’s turn. He had the same scripture in mind as Lonnie, but he shared words of comfort with the family also. Then Boli shared memories and we had a prayer. 

Miss Christina went with Brian’s from there as they had invited her to come spend a little more time in Dhaka this summer with them and Miss Aleigha. And we took Kobid and Orpita back to Khulna with us. Lonnie and Kobid kept up a steady stream in the front seat. After a little small talk with Orpita. The whole crew of us fell asleep in the back of the van. I was feeling nauseous by this time with my headache🤕🤢 At Bissho Rd, Lonnie and Kobid  helped Orpita catch the bus on to Gopalgonj.

Back at the house, Lonnie, Jaira, and Annslie went to Shunil’s to pick up Maddie’s birthday cake. I showered, then fixed the table up a bit.

After our little birthday party, Maddie commented, “That was a fun birthday!” Which made my momma heart glad! As native events can be a bit much for my girls sometimes. But it seemed like she handled the sudden change of plans and big day well✨

Thurs July 2

 I sewed today

In the evening, Ripon from Gopalgonj, called with the word that our Sister Beauty’s mother had passed away. She passed at 5:00 that morning and the funeral would be tomorrow morning 9:30 at her home in Jashore 2 hrs from here.

I finished my dress

Wed. July 1

 I cut out a dress for myself

 This evening 5:00, was scheduled to be our 1st doctrine class with Lewis and Purnima.

We went in to Khulna City a little early so we could stop by Aarongs for wrapping paper and the grocery store for a few essentials, the tailor boss was not in,.. and then on to Lewis’s where Purnima was making noodles over her low mud oven, even tho we’d told them, “we don’t need food”. 

While she finished up, I offered to wash the china dishes and glasses she’d gotten out by the water pump. My offer was declined so I went out the gate to visit with the neighbor ladies that had gathered. 

There was a 1 month old baby there in Lewis’s compound that was crying and crying(it had gotten a vaccination shot that day) and the mother had taken it out to walk with it where it finally fell asleep and she wanted me to hold it. The baby was not named yet.

After the class, and noodles with tiny bits of meat (that tasted a lot like liver.. they’d received from their Muslim neighbors at Eid🫣) we made our way back thru the alley to where we’d parked out by the street. While I waited for Lonnie to move the van away from the curb so I could get in. I visited with some chatty children who’d gathered. One informed me that one of them was Hindu, one Muslim, and one Christian😅

Lonnie stopped back by the tailor dokan for me and the boss was there 🤗 finally! I left 2 pcs for dresses for the girls and Miss Christina left a 3 pc kameeze to be sewn

Mon June 29

 Lonnie made a trip into town to get a small battery backup system for the guard shack and to run the yard light. We’d been having Such interrupted nights with all the power outages and our night guard turning the generator off and on several times during the night. For a fan in his quarters and a yard light. Fast forward: it has made such a wonderful improvement to our nights 😌

Sun June 28

Pikli, our land lady, came for a visit. More legal documents… the struggle for ownership of this property with her ex has supposedly been settled in court now.

Later she returned with a couple men. One of them being from the local power company. She has instructed them to put a larger transmitter to this location. When the current system was put in place it was based on a certain amount of electricity being used. Since then, 3 more A.C.s have been installed in this house pulling more of a load than had been planned for.. maybe the cause of excessive power outages recently. They’re planning to have the new installation by middle of July. So we’re s’pose to use less A.C.s till then. Which hasn’t been as much of a problem as our teacher soon went for another stay in Dhaka and the girls have been using the bedroom on the main floor this summer. Plus Monsoon Season has arrived with some spells of not such extreme heat

We went for a little outing to the river this evening. A new stretch of the river for us. We parked at the same place as where we’d gone with everybody after Fellowship, but this evening we walked on down along the river a ways. Definitely a local attraction with dokans here and there selling food and drink. People lined along the bank or down by the waters edge taking pictures with folks up top videoing those below! Rather appalling as I don’t believe the people below knew they were being videoed.?. 🤔

Lonnie stopped and helped a man who was working on his easy bike. We spent that time nearby at the river’s edge.

Back at point A we watched the moon come up over the river as the night arrived. Of course a crowd gathered around us. All beckoning “Asho, Asho” to Gentry as they all wanted to hold him. They were declined but gathered Very near, visiting and getting Gentry to play with them from my arms.